Re: Fellow Workers

Unca Jones (best-smith@TRIAX.COM)
Sun, 29 Nov 1998 09:39:02 -0800


I sense and understand your frustration. Be aware that anger can be a
dangerous weapon; sometimes we blow ourselves up in the process of
wielding it. The roots of my homelessness (prior) were frustration and
anger at perceived slights of society. Sure, there was validity in my
arguements but the energy spent railing subtracted from energy I could
have used to better my position. Only once I ceased and forgave
(different from forget) the bozos was I able to start winning individual
struggles.
Unions have had their place in history but I personally don't trust them
as altruistic organizations they profess to be, very often as power is
gained, power becomes the issue and original visions are lost.
My wife had an incident last year where she was sexually harassed by a
client. I went ballistic trying to get this fool fired, when that
failed, I walked away from $5000 a month in contracts. The company did
eventually transfer this jerk, if I had been more patient - not shooting
myself in the foot by leaving - he would have been gone and we could
have continued with this client (missing that paycheck almost sunk us).
My point is that your anger may be overwhelming and undermining your
talents. Yes, it's important to make a stand, however temperence gives
us time to adequately formulate direction.
Moving doesn't necessarily fix situations, there will be hardship
wherever we go - the grass is always greener, ad nauseum. Anger
management taught me to recognize my own fuck ups, allowing me to
forgive the fuck ups of others.
I know it's a tired cliche but working within the system, utilizing info
in constructive and respectful means often can be key to changing those
very systems: I started a corporation ($50 in Oregon) in order to change
the directions of business, and like my bout with the previously
mentioned client it made my position worse by burning the bridge.
Good luck and love from us.