[Hpn] Re: [nhhomeless] WELFARE: Should providers push single moms to marry?

wtinker wtinker@fcgnetworks.net
Mon, 19 Feb 2001 18:36:51 -0500

I am really torn here,I have to tell you I lost my last family to welfare in
1989 because in New Hampshire back then, and I believe even now your not
supposed to have a man living in the house hold,and if he is he must be
either disabled or not be present when the DHHS DSS shows up.
I believe that since I was arrested for DWI in 1988 and because I was to
ultimately go to jail my ex decided to get a jump on welfare system and
signed up for AFDC before I even was incarcerated.We had 30 days grace
period,after 30 days she was made to file a domestic violence restraining
order so she could start getting her welfare checks.
I have to laugh here [ooooooowwwwww hahahahahahehehehehehe]the conservatives
want to push for people to get married?
OMG..... bleeding hearts conservatives that think they can change things
with a piece of paper....Sorry its not going to happen, first of all they
have to change social security laws "so us people that are living in sin to
survive are not penalized for a piece of paper"...I am talking about SSA
SSDI checks that get cut if you get married and your losing $300.00 out of
the check of your S.O. if you did get married,and the disability is the same
only a name chages...this is the insanity...of our government and if you
write to your congress-men it takes a constitutional amendment to change
this Social Security Law!
Its so obvious and only to true that our state and other governments created
this monster now they think its all going away after 40 years of wefare
mothers begetting welfare babies to have welfare babies?
Ain't happening my friends might as well start believing in the Tooth
Fairy,or the Easter bunny!
Just my rant and opinion!
25 Granite Street
Northfield,N.H. 03276 USA
Advocate,activist for disabled,displaced and parents human rights
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Subject: [nhhomeless] WELFARE: Should providers push single moms to marry?

> HPN Homeless Newswire - BOOKMARK
> Should welfare providers push single mothers to marry?
> If poor single mothers marry, will they & their children be better off?
> Will they be better off under a US government which defines
> "single parenthood" as an "immmoral choice"?
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> FWD  Associated Pres - AP Wire Service - Feb 11 2001
> Associated Press Writer
> WASHINGTON (AP) _ Conservatives who successfully argued that the
> nation's welfare system must aggressively push poor people into
> jobs are preparing to push something more personal: marriage.
> They argue that the breakdown of the two-parent family is the
> root cause of welfare dependence, and that millions of Americans
> will remain trapped in poverty unless the nation fosters a culture
> of marriage in poor communities.
> ``All the data we have says that kids do best when they grow up
> in two-parent families,'' said Rep. Wally Herger, R-Calif.,
> chairman of the House Ways and Means welfare subcommittee, who
> plans hearings on the issue. ``We'd like to see a return to the
> family unit and to family values.''
> Nationally, one in three babies is born to unmarried parents.
> And among women with less than a high school education, 60 percent
> were unmarried when they gave birth.
> One of the 1996 welfare law's central purposes was to encourage
> formation of two-parent families, but so far states have spent
> little time, energy or money to this end. That is partly because it
> raises sensitive questions about the role of government and partly
> because there is little evidence about what works.
> Now debate is beginning over what changes are needed to that
> law, which must be renewed by next year, and conservatives are
> laying the groundwork for a stronger focus on marriage. Liberals
> have concerns, but are not rejecting their ideas out of hand.
> Among them:
> _requiring states to spend part of their welfare money on
> pro-marriage activities.
> _encouraging caseworkers to talk to pregnant women about
> marrying the fathers of their unborn babies.
> _judging state success based on reductions in out-of-wedlock
> births.
> _teaching about the value of marriage in high school.
> _sponsoring experiments to see what programs might produce more
> marriages.
> The role of marriage in social policy has been a contentious,
> painful debate since 1965, when a future senator, Daniel Patrick
> Moynihan, prompted charges of racism with his report on the
> breakdown of black family. Pointing to the rising number of black
> babies born to unmarried parents, he suggested that the absence of
> fathers and male role models _ along with the income they provide _
> explained myriad social problems.
> At the time, about one in four black babies was born to
> unmarried parents. By 1999, it was 69 percent.
> Still, 35 years later, there is little agreement on how to put
> families together.
> ``Until we get more evidence, I'm not so sure we should be
> spending huge sums of money here,'' said Wendell Primus, a welfare
> authority at the Center for Budget and Policy Priorities, who left
> a top welfare job in the Clinton administration to protest the
> president's decision to sign the 1996 overhaul.
> ``There are clearly some marriages that aren't going to work,''
> Primus added. ``Government can't force two people to love each
> other when their relationship has broken apart.''
> Sandra Robertson, an advocate for the poor in Georgia, suggests
> that poor women are perfectly capable of deciding when marriage is
> right for them.
> ``I'm especially surprised that the party that talks about
> wanting government out of our lives, of wanting government to stay
> away from social engineering, seems to have a desire to do that for
> poor people,'' Robertson said.
> Others worry that women may wind up pressured to stay in
> unhealthy _ even abusive _ relationships.
> Robert Rector, a leading conservative welfare expert, argues
> that government should not coerce anyone into marriage but should
> suggest and encourage it. With a push, he says, some couples are
> bound to succeed.
> ``You could say, `Here's a mentoring group. You don't have to do
> this. But it's a free group to try and improve a relationship that
> can lead you to a lifetime of love and commitment,''' he said. ``I
> think it's absolutely tragic that we don't do anything like that
> now.''
> Talking about marriage would be a giant departure for welfare
> caseworkers, who used to simply calculate whether an applicant was
> eligible for benefits, said Susan Golonka, welfare expert at the
> National Governors Association. Caseworkers have already expanded
> their duties to include job counseling, and adding marriage
> counseling would be another big step.
> ``There would be a lot of people who would be uncomfortable,''
> she said.
> There is little pro-marriage activity in social policy today.
> Some fatherhood programs work to help fathers find jobs _ partly so
> they can pay child support _ and to participate in their children's
> lives. But co-parenting, not marriage, is the focus.
> Primus, Robertson and other liberals are not rejecting the
> marriage push wholesale, suggesting Rector may be right when he
> predicts a growing consensus for a stronger focus on marriage.
> ``I don't think progressives should be scared of this issue,''
> Primus said. ``We also believe in marriage and two-parent
> families.''
> And Robertson, who directs the Georgia Citizens' Coalition on
> Hunger, says: ``It's clear when a child is wanted, and when a child
> has two parents ... that child has a better chance.''
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> Regarding Welfare Reform's impacts, its historical roots,
> and poor women's roles in Welfare Rights activism, see:
> "Under Attack, Fighting Back: Women and welfare in the United States"
> by Mimi Abramovitz, Monthly Review Press, New York (Updated editon: 2000)
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